Slipping, banging, no reverse: what it usually turns out to be
Slipping, harsh shifts and delayed engagement all feel like a dying transmission, but they are symptoms of low hydraulic pressure, and low pressure has cheap causes as often as expensive ones. A leaking cooler line, a clogged filter, a failed shift solenoid or a bad range sensor produce the same driving experience as worn clutches. The difference is visible in the fluid and measurable on a scan tool, which is why nobody should quote a rebuild before checking either.
by the technicians at Instant Auto Repair, Detroit, MI.

What the fluid tells you
Healthy automatic transmission fluid is red or light brown and smells faintly of oil. Fluid that is dark brown to black and smells burnt has been overheated, and overheating is what destroys the friction material on the clutches.
The pan is more informative still. A light grey film on the magnet is normal wear. Gritty black paste, or visible chunks of friction material and metal, means the clutches are already breaking up. At that point no fluid change or additive brings them back, and the honest answer is a rebuild or a replacement unit.
This is why we drop the pan and look before quoting. It takes an hour and it decides whether the conversation is about a solenoid or about a rebuild.
Symptoms that usually turn out to be cheap
Slipping that appeared suddenly rather than gradually. Sudden onset points at fluid level or pressure, not at wear, because clutch wear happens over tens of thousands of miles.
One specific gear misbehaving while the others are fine. That pattern points at a solenoid or a valve body circuit for that gear rather than general internal wear.
A shudder at steady highway speed that goes away if you touch the brake. That is usually the torque converter clutch, and on many vehicles it responds to the correct fluid and a software update rather than a rebuild.
Harsh engagement only when cold. Frequently fluid that has lost its friction modifiers, which a correct-specification fluid change addresses.
Symptoms that usually mean internal damage
No reverse at all, with forward gears working. Reverse uses a specific clutch pack, and when that pack is gone, it is gone.
Slipping that has been getting gradually worse for months, combined with burnt fluid. That is the wear curve, and it does not reverse.
A loud whine that changes with vehicle speed rather than engine speed, which points at the pump or the internal gear train.
Metal in the pan. Metal comes from hard parts, not friction plates, and hard part failure is not a repair you do in the vehicle.
Why fluid changes have a bad reputation
The old story that changing fluid in a high-mileage transmission causes it to fail is mostly a timing illusion. People change the fluid because it is already misbehaving, and it fails shortly after because it was already failing.
There is a real version of the concern though. A full pressure flush on a transmission with a lot of debris in it can move that debris into passages it was not in before. A pan drop and filter change is the gentler option and is what we generally recommend on an unknown-history vehicle.